no one gives fanfic writers enough credit like can we just slow clap it out for all the writers who can manage to finish a fic or just even start one and have the confidence to put it out there for everyone to see because that shit is pretty hard to do and so is typing it all up and just thinking of the plot and all the little details idk writers are great
there is no set way to be a woman (✿◠‿◠)
there is no set way to be a man (◡‿◡✿)
there is no set way to be non-binary \ (•◡•) /
just wear what you want and act how you want it doesnt matter your identity is still valid
Anonymous asked: idk man i think in time you'll grow more comfortable with your body and maybe get to a point where you know the other person has fallen for you as a whole (including your body but not only that) and be totally cool with the go ahead. Also, wouldn't you rather someone who is not 100% sure of what they're doing all the time? For me It'll be a thing that we both experience and figure things out together... it'd be weird if they/I were too confident
I have no problem if a certain someone I’m with isn’t sure what they’re doing, I don’t believe you need absolute confidence to like and be happy with someone (:
The thing is that I’m not with anyone and pretty much never have been, in a real sense. And while it’s not something I’m particularly bothered about at the moment- I’m not hunting down relationships, I’m happy as I am right now- it gets into my head sometimes that I probably never will. Also, it’s not so much down to body image, I’m aware that people find me physically attractive (it’s not a vanity trip, I’m just not going to think that everyone who’s ever told me this is a liar) I just think that there might be inherent flaw in my character?
Like I said, I’m not hunting down a smooch and this isn’t a “boo hoo no one fancies me!” it’s just that it is probably a bit loserish to make my way to adulthood without one genuine human attraction flipped my way. Guess I’m just feeling sorry for myself over this pattern forming.
Thank you for your message though (: I’m still working on being comfortable with my body anyway Xx
Except you can’t show a topless woman on TV - and you can’t defibrillate a woman in a bra. So victims of heart attacks on TV are *always* male. Did you know that a woman having a heart attack is more likely to have back or jaw pain than chest or left arm pain? I didn’t - because I’ve never seen a woman having a heart attack. I’ve been trained in CPR and Advanced First Aid by the Red Cross over 15 times in my life, the videos and booklets always have a guy and say the same thing about clutching his chest and/or bicep.
And people laugh when I tell them women are still invisible in this world.
So yeah, sometimes sexual and lovey stuff sounds like a great idea but I can’t quite get my head around the fact that people get so happy and comfortable in each others company that they get to that point, because I know that’s just not something that can happen to me. But then the idea of sleeping with someone who I know doesn’t particularly care about my being comfortable in the act scares the poop right out of me.
This is a round-about way of complaining that I worry about always being alone. (Friends discounted, I love my friends but there’s a difference, y’know?)